5 Goals You Don’t Have To Share With Your Partner To Have A Lasting Relationship, According To Experts

Aug 8, 2019 | Clinical Psychotherpy

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When you think of an ideal relationship, you might have it in mind that you and your partner, or your potential partner, need to have all the the same interests, values, and ambitions. But the truth of the matter is, that is a pretty tall order for another unique human being. While each relationship might have non-negotiable pillars, it is worth noting that there are plenty of ways to be a very committed couple with different goals.

“Common ground can help to set the stage for safety and trust,” Florida based psychologist Dr. Karin R. Lawson, PsyD, CEDS-S, tells Bustle. “That common ground can be similar values, similar backgrounds, similar professions, similar family dynamics. However, we continue to develop throughout our entire adulthood, which means our values can shift, because experiences impact us.”

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